what the fuck? i don't understand what goes on between u two. one moment, things seem fine; the next, everything is wrong again. she deserves to be treated better than u treat her. she doesn't need someone to treat her like a child. she's an adult and can make her own choices. she doesn't have to report to anyone if she doesn't feel like it. so u say that u tried to be understanding... how can u say that when all u listen to are the words of ur friends? listen to what she says before u expect her to listen to u. stop trying to put her on this guilt trip. u kno how to twist her mind and heart to the point where the strongest person i kno breaks down to tears. she's given up her life to be in yours. do u even kno that? the ones closest to her have been pushed aside and all her attention on u. how can u say that u love her when you have to check up on her life? what kind of crap is that? you love her, but u can't trust her. i'm sorry to say, but trust is what makes love what it is. without it, tell me what u have. might as well be nothing, right? put ur words into action and do something to show that u really do love her. from what i kno, doesn't seem like u give even 1% of what she gives to u. u say she's ruining ur life. what about hers? u say she's been selfish. how do u think she feels when she gives u her world and u give her harsh words and accusations? there is no way that one can love a person too much. in this case, i must say that it seems like u love her too little. i kno that u care about her and that u do love her, but tell me how u've shown it. tell me what u've done for her, and i'll tell u of all the things she's done for you. she doesn't ask for anything more than ur time, patience, love, and understanding. why do u refuse these to her? let her tell her story for once instead of immediately attacking her and putting her on the defense when all she can say is sorry cuz u won't even give her a chance. i love this girl like she was my blood. she doesn't deserve any shit because she's got a big heart and an awesome personality. love her for who she is and cherish her. if u can't even do any of this, jus leave... she deserves only the best.
just my opinion